A Different Look at Valentine's Day

First, let me admit that Valentine's Day is my least favorite holiday. When I was single the first time, I called it "Single's Awareness Day." I got so sick of seeing all the stuffed animals and heart candies in the store, and especially tired of all the commercials about jewelry (which is surprising because I like jewelry). Not only was it a reminder that, once again, no one was buying me flowers, but it also seemed so superficial. If you need Valentine's Day to show your special someone that you think they are special, then something is wrong with your relationship. You should be showing them how special they are on any day of the year because you want to, not because the calendar or commercials told you to.

I entered February trying to find a reason to like Valentine's Day. I even looked up the history of the stupid holiday and didn't manage to find anything that made it valid in my mind. It wasn't until I received one of Meg Johnson's monthly messages that something finally clicked.

For those of you who are like me and strongly dislike this holiday, let me present a new way of looking at it. Instead of focusing on the fact that you are single and no one is giving you jewelry or flowers, focus on the little things in life that people have done for you, or that you can do for them.

As I started thinking about Valentine's Day in this way, I remembered the numerous emails that I have received from people since I started this blog, most of whom I barely know or don't know at all. I have received messages of thanks for sharing my story. Others have offered encouragement and support. These messages have picked me up when I needed it most. It's been truly touching.

So, in my new spirit of Valentine's Day, I would like to thank each of you who have supported me or lifted me in one way or another. You've been a little miracle in my life. When I started this blog, I didn't think anyone would read it, or that it would make a difference. It's funny how things work themselves out, even if it is in some small and simple way.

My challenge to you for this Valentine's Day is that instead of feeling bad that you are, once again, facing this holiday alone, find someone to serve. Trust me, it will make all the difference in the world. And maybe, just maybe, you'll be able to look at Valentine's Day a little differently too.